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I feel fro you Freak, our Astra just blew an engine ECU last week and we were looking it at a £550 repair bill, Fuck that.

I'm seriously considering selling my house for what I owe (or as close to it as possible) and moving into my parent's house. My mom thinks my dad is about to die and they plan to give me the house anyway.

It's closer to work.

Good school district (we just got rezoned right out of the district we moved there for, only neigborhood on that side of the street!). They would actually go to the exact same schools I went to. High school is walking distance.

I'd be able to repair or buy new(er) cars and get out of debt.

Park close by.

House has a pool, oversided master suite, two small bedrooms, large bonus bedroom, formal living and dining room.

It has a seperate two-car garage that I'd like to remodel into a studio apartment/poolhouse.

There's lots of plusses...

But I'd be living with my mom.

However, she could give the kids the attention they need and my wife could get a fucking job.

FZ, that sounds like something you should consider. It's not nearly as rare as it used to be, especially with the economy causing many families to re-think how they've doing things.

Just as an example (I'll spare y'all the blow-by-blow details): since 2004, my wife and I have moved into one of her father's old houses, moved out of that one and into a new one (which we're thinking of actually buying); my sister and her husband bought our grandparents' old house; and my mom moved in with the wife and myself (briefly, thank God; she's out on her own again). And there's other stuff going on, too, like having my wife's parents watch the children as often as possible to save on baby-sitting costs.

It's a different ballgame out there now. The traditional model of grow up, move away, find work, raise a family, and only ever visit at Christmas is simply more difficult than it used to be. Families everywhere are coming up with all sorts of plans to make things work.

But I'd be living with my mom.

...We'll help you pack ! (Mentally)...

Freakzilla wrote:I'm seriously considering selling my house for what I owe (or as close to it as possible) and moving into my parent's house. My mom thinks my dad is about to die and they plan to give me the house anyway.

It's closer to work.

Good school district (we just got rezoned right out of the district we moved there for, only neigborhood on that side of the street!). They would actually go to the exact same schools I went to. High school is walking distance.

I'd be able to repair or buy new(er) cars and get out of debt.

Park close by.

House has a pool, oversided master suite, two small bedrooms, large bonus bedroom, formal living and dining room.

It has a seperate two-car garage that I'd like to remodel into a studio apartment/poolhouse.

There's lots of plusses...

But I'd be living with my mom.

However, she could give the kids the attention they need and my wife could get a fucking job.

Sounds like a good deal. A few years of no mortgage will do wonders for your credit and debt situation. Grandparents are good things for kids too, generally. Very sorry to hear your dad is in bad health too, Freak.

TheDukester wrote:FZ, that sounds like something you should consider. It's not nearly as rare as it used to be, especially with the economy causing many families to re-think how they've doing things.

Just as an example (I'll spare y'all the blow-by-blow details): since 2004, my wife and I have moved into one of her father's old houses, moved out of that one and into a new one (which we're thinking of actually buying); my sister and her husband bought our grandparents' old house; and my mom moved in with the wife and myself (briefly, thank God; she's out on her own again). And there's other stuff going on, too, like having my wife's parents watch the children as often as possible to save on baby-sitting costs.

It's a different ballgame out there now. The traditional model of grow up, move away, find work, raise a family, and only ever visit at Christmas is simply more difficult than it used to be. Families everywhere are coming up with all sorts of plans to make things work.

I think this is a good thing.
Alot of stuff went wrong in this country after WWII when that "move out & raise a family on your own thing"
took off. Children moved across the country chasing jobs & "opportunity", extended families broke down...

I hate to say it, but a lot of the excesses of my generation in the 60s was due to lack of parental supervison & contact .... it was easier to get stoned & fight the government if Daddy was 1000 miles away

I'd welcome a return to the extended family - well, for other people, my worthless kids ain't
comin back here, never. Not while I'm alive, anyway.

Not even Lemmy? I think he's just misunderstood ...

TheDukester wrote:Not even Lemmy? I think he's just misunderstood ...

Yeah, where's that pic when he looked misunderstood?

I'm sorry to hear about it Freak. When i was still a baby my parents had to move in to my grandmother's home for financial reasons as well, but things worked out and i'm sure the same will happen to you. I hope you're dad gets better too.

Thanks for everyone's concern but I doubt he'll get better. He's on his last artery and it's got a stint on it. It's his own fault, he was told by doctors he had a heart problem and didn't want to believe it. My mom thinks he's losing his mind from lack of blood flow. It's obvious why she's anxious for us to move in.

It's looking more and more like this is going to happen. I'm not looking forward to living with mom again, but I'm at work most of the time anyway. It will be better financially for all of us and I'll be under tons less stress.

Sorry to hear about your father's condition.

As for mothers ... remember that however annoying or frustrating, they go someday, too, and you miss them.

Sorry to hear about your Dad, Freak.

I myself moved back in with the parents to pay for grad school, i'll graduate with no student debt which is a huge blessing.

Now they don't want me to move out... ANYONE NEED A ROOMATE?!?!?!

Ampoliros wrote:Sorry to hear about your Dad, Freak.

I myself moved back in with the parents to pay for grad school, i'll graduate with no student debt which is a huge blessing.

Now they don't want me to move out... ANYONE NEED A ROOMATE?!?!?!

I'll turn the seperate garage into a pool house for you.

BTW, when I say "my dad" I'm talking about my step-father, who raised me. My biological father (the artist) is dying of cancer.

Freakzilla wrote:

Ampoliros wrote:Sorry to hear about your Dad, Freak.

I myself moved back in with the parents to pay for grad school, i'll graduate with no student debt which is a huge blessing.

Now they don't want me to move out... ANYONE NEED A ROOMATE?!?!?!

I'll turn the seperate garage into a pool house for you.

BTW, when I say "my dad" I'm talking about my step-father, who raised me. My biological father (the artist) is dying of cancer.

Wow...tough break, Freak...

Sorry to hear it Freak.

My brother-n-law moved back in with his mother when his father got bad off. It was just him and his two children but now six years later the house, lights, phone, and water is in his name and he is taking care of his mother. It turned out to be a blessing for both of them. She can't watch the kids anymore but at least she is not alone in her later years.

Eyes High wrote:Sorry to hear it Freak.

My brother-n-law moved back in with his mother when his father got bad off. It was just him and his two children but now six years later the house, lights, phone, and water is in his name and he is taking care of his mother. It turned out to be a blessing for both of them. She can't watch the kids anymore but at least she is not alone in her later years.

That's one thing that worries me too, what's going to happen to my mom when my dad dies. I think she's got plenty of years left in her too, she's going to go kicking and screaming.

THAT is the only option, as far as I'm concerned.

Freak, sometimes we do things that we don't much care too. I was hesitant about moving back with my parents when I went back to school but it has worked out so far and I have one more year to go. With a little planning maybe you can come up with a schedule that keeps you from going bonkers?

Rob

Sorry to hear about your Dad, Freak.

It sounds like moving into your parents' house could be a good move. A lot of plusses for you and your family, whether just for a while or longer term.

HBJ

Oh yeah, it's he house I grew up, too.

Looks like I'll be keeping my house, BoA has lowered my payment quite a bit, much more affordable...

Back on topic:

My wife just got a '97 Ford Explorer Sport 4 Door V8 Eddie Bauer with about 190K miles on it from her sister. (Her 2000 Windstar transmission crapped out as she was leaving her parents to go to Florida a few weeks ago and has been junked.) I'm not sure if we're buying it from her, or what but at least my wife has a car. I'm hoping she's going to let us make payments to her on it.

Private party Kelly Blue Book Value: $3790 for excellent condition.

I've never had an SUV before. New toy, WOOHOO!

Rakis wrote:

TheDukester wrote:Not even Lemmy? I think he's just misunderstood ...

Yeah, where's that pic when he looked misunderstood?

my future caregiver :



shoot me in the face now.

(this was the picture in the Christmas card his "old lady at the time" sent me ...)
{which reminds me, Thanksgiving's coming up fast, I've got to start hiding stuff ...}

SandRider wrote:

Rakis wrote:

TheDukester wrote:Not even Lemmy? I think he's just misunderstood ...

Yeah, where's that pic when he looked misunderstood?

my future caregiver :

I wouldn't count on that.

I'm hoping my youngest boy marries the stripper ...

(on the left)

I've got some new pics of them around here somewhere,
she's really good-looking, and apparently not crazy ...
atleast not yet. Looking forward to her coming out here
in november, so I can get drunk & say very inappropriate
things to her ...

Hell yeah!